How to Buy Lingerie for your Partner

Buying lingerie for your partner can be a balancing act. On one end, you want something that will look good on her, but you also want to pick something she’ll actually feel comfortable and sexy in. If you don’t want to ruin the surprise, knowing what she likes and what would be out of the question can be difficult. Here are a few tips on how to find the perfect lingerie for that special someone in your life.

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Do your Homework

First of all, you need a crash course in lingerie before you even start. You should be able to tell the difference between a petticoat, baby doll, robe, etc. Try and do as much research as you can both on and offline, so you’ll at least know what you’re buying and what to look for if she casually happens to mention a piece of lingerie at some point in time.

Think about what she Wants First

As much as you’d like to see your girl step out in a latex maid outfit with knee high boots to match, think about what she would be comfortable in first. If she doesn’t feel sexy in it, then it defeats the whole purpose. Look at what she likes to wear on an everyday basis. Look at the types of fabrics and the fit. The rule should be to buy something she would love wearing but never splurge on herself.

Go with Classics

When in doubt, you can always go for the classics. You can never go wrong with a nice nightgown, chemise, or a luxurious bathrobe. Bathrobes, in particular, are very popular and will be a winner for virtually anyone, so if you have absolutely no idea what to pick, then that would be a good choice.

Bathrobes are also actually very useful, and she’ll be able to wear it when she’s getting ready or just stepping out of the shower. They come in a variety of styles, fabrics, and patterns and will flatter pretty much any body type. And they can be worn with or without underwear as well.

Do not Offend Her

It doesn’t matter if she actually loves Spanx and raves about them every time she sees the infomercial on TV. You shouldn’t, under any circumstances, buy a pair for her. This is just a disaster waiting to happen. You shouldn’t send her a subliminal message by buying her something like a push-up bra either. Same goes with padded bras. The goal is to make her feel sexy and comfortable, not flare up her anxieties. So, make sure that you buy women’s lingerie that will actually flatter her and accentuate her best parts. I guarantee you you’ll get to see her wearing it more often if you do.


Follow these tips and you should be able to find a great piece of lingerie both of you will love. Always remember to put her needs and preferences first if you don’t want the piece you buy her to finish in the bottom of a drawer.